Red Bottom Tales

Chillin in the New Year

2012-01-22T18:21:00.002-05:00

I have no idea where this picture is from, but I could not find any copyrights to it when I googled. My apologies. It fits my current situation though.

I am climbing the walls at home and trying to make the best of it... for 4 weeks and counting. Rumproaster came down for a weekend and wisked me away to the movies to get me out of the house. We went to see War Horse. I highly recommend seeing that one. Take some tissues. It's a tear jerker.

Other than sneaking out to dinner and a movie, I've been sitting at home...drinking good wine, eating good food, watching good dvd's and generally being a bumm.

Hopefully this blog will get some regular updating now. I do hope to get to spring cleaning on this blog soon. It needs an overhaul. Plus I hope to begin doing some post on lovely people I've met in the scene - provided they give their permission. I find that I enjoy the friendships of spankos in a vanilla sense much more than plain vanillas for the most part. Then you can have everyday fun - and if a spanking comes up, no need to hide it. But if not, being in the company of friends is one of life's greatest pleasures. I have some good, sincere, fun loving friends in the scene and have enjoyed them immensely in a variety of situations. Friendships take years to develop and I love to enjoy the progression over time.

Ok, I'm rambling. More later. Hopefully.

Happy Halloween

2011-10-30T11:05:00.000-04:00

Thank you to Rumproaster for forwarding this link to me!

Directions:
Insert "spank" for every *bleep* and have a Happy Halloween everyone!

Back From the SSC

2011-10-24T11:30:00.000-04:00

We are back from the SSC and it was an absolutely wonderful time. It felt much more like a vacation with spanko friends than a spanking party. I loved how everyone just sat around and caught up, enjoying each others' company. I don't even think I got spanked until Saturday afternoon or evening.

Rumproaster and I arrived on Thursday afternoon, went grocery shopping with the SSNY crew and ended up on the back screen porch that evening chatting about past parties and anything in general. We stayed in the SSNY house.

Friday was sight seeing day. We saw parts of Savannah, had dinner with a huge crew at a local pub, and had a late night ghost tour.

Saturday started with a wonderful pancake breakfast made by RG over in the main house. I'm not a huge pancake lover, but man oh man. If I had not needed to watch my calories for my nilla life at this party, I would have eaten 2nds and possibly thirds. These are the best pancakes in the world. We watched the dophins playing in the surf while we ate. Mike entertained us with his dolphin impressions at the SSNY house and was dubbed "The Dolphinator" by Jules.

Lunch made by Mike (lasagna) and supper made by Kat (lasagna!) was wonderful. Thanks to both of them!

The day ended with Spanking Court and some pretty hilarious charges.

Some things (not all inclusive) I enjoyed about this weekend:

*Pancakes!

*Singing in the car with the SSNY crew

*RG's prison strap

*birthday spankings

*Girl talk

*Dirt

*Kor-E the Ghost

*Dolphin impersonations

*Lasagna!

*hanging out on the balcony during the storm talking until 2am.

*birthday spankings from so many friends I've known for a long time

*Becoming a snobby elistist

*hanging out with friends

Everything from beginning to end was perfect. A huge thank you to Sarah and RG for hosting. Thank you to the SSC house, the SSNY house and the FMS house for making this a party to remember. It was so wonderful to hang out with normal, fun, spanko friends for a weekend. Thank you all.

10 Days and Counting!

2011-10-03T19:08:00.000-04:00

My computer has died and I am on a vanilla computer. Thus, no pics!

I am looking forward to the final party of the year with some friends, most of whom are also vanilla friends. Vanilla life has been kicking ass over here and I've not had much time to breathe, much less post. The preparty banter is just not happening this time and sometimes I get a jiggle in my brain that this might cause me to be more of a wall flower than normal. But I know many (most) of these people in a vanilla since, and hope to welcome some more in my (our) vanilla life(ves). We are looking forward to all the good fun, good play, good food and just spending time with normal, fun, down to earth spanko friends!

Rump Roaster and I are totally pumped to be coming and are now counting the hours instead of the days :)

Georgia, here we come! We are looking forward to seeing you all :)

Condolences to David Pierson and Punished Brats

2011-06-24T18:55:00.000-04:00

David Pierson's brother passed away in the early morning hours today. Many prayers and and deepest condolences to him, his family, and to the Punished Brats family.

2011 Boardwalk Badness Weekend

2011-06-12T09:53:00.035-04:00

This post is almost inexcusably late in coming. The 2011 Boardwalk Badness Weekend in Atlantic City was another great one. The SSNY crew might have even topped off their 2010 party. Jules, Miranda, coach Tanner, Mike and Lil Brat outdid themselves - again - and a huge thank you to them!

Rumproaster and I headed up Thursday, leaving on Monday. It was so nice to see friends, hang out, get a few spankings, provide fingernail polish to some my friends, buy some dropseat jammies from a good friend, go to many of the events that were planned, play some of the slot machines at the casino, snuggle in bed with other girlfriends and watch THEM easily lead the tops whatever direction they wished, watch one friend distract a top by enticing them to spank her - so that another friend could grab the computer and pull up pics that otherwise would not have been pulled up (lol) -nice teamwork girls, have crotch distractions, pair off, and visit the boardwalk. That is just a few of the fun things that happened that weekend.

About a week after BBW, I had to be in RG and Sarah Thorne's area for my vanilla life and was able to spend two days with them. They are an awesome couple. It was nice to hang out and chill with them for a couple of days. Thank you RG and Sarah.

I forgot to take pictures of the event. I'm terrible like that. RR has a few on his camera, which I will share when he has time to send them.

More details to come - after my vanilla life stops kicking my butt.

Headed to the Boardwalk!

2011-04-19T23:03:00.004-04:00

Boardwalk Badness Weekend is almost here and I am so TOTALLY psyched. Here are some of the things I am looking forward to:

*Seeing Mike and his girlfriend, LilBrat. I enjoyed getting to know them well over the summer and can't wait to see them again. Mike is a "what you see is what you get" kind of guy and funny as hell. He can really spank! Just don't ask him to count.... LilBrat is a perfect match for him - one of those natural brats. I love them both to pieces and can't wait to see them again.

*I'm looking forward to seeing Mike Tanner, Miranda and Jules. I can't say enough good things about them and hope to get to know them better as time goes on. They are some of those on my "want to get to know better than I do" list. He is an awesome spanker and I'm looking forward to another spanking from him this year.

*Pixie. I don't know her well other than a few correspondences over the course of a couple of years. She seems to be as sweet as they come and I can't wait to see her again either.

*David Pierson. Am looking forward to seeing him again and chatting face to face for a change. Hoping he can make it to this year's event.

*Sarah Rocks. She is so very funny and shares my love of chocolate. I plan to bring enough cookies and chocolate to satiate both of us and everyone else.

*Looking forward to seeing Aurora again. She is so witty. She has special skills at throwing people under the bus and I enjoy being around her.

*I am looking forward to seeing Amber again and meeting her boyfriend, Woodpaddles. Amber has a great sense of humor and I enjoy being around her too!

*I'm looking forward to seeing my good friend, Kat the Brat. She is so much fun to be around and I enjoy her immensely. We've been chatting some recently and catching up on life in general. I hear she is bringing her boyfriend with collar and leash in tow. Will be good to see them both.

*I cannot WAIT to see RG again to experience RG's Canadian Prison strap. The first time he used it on me, he kept building til I thought I would die. Then 5 minutes after the spanking was over, I was saying, "Hey, I want that again". Ha ha. Who woulda thunk I'd like a prison strap, lol.

*Can't wait to see Sarah Thorne. She is as nice as they come, smart as a whip and one of the best brats I know. I've enjoyed getting to know her (and her husband) over the last couple of years and look forward to getting to know her better with time. Oh yeah, and RG too, grinz.

*Looking forward to seeing Jersey John again! He is such a fun spanker and I've loved every scene we've done (two total, ha ha).

*I am totally looking forward to seeing my friend Munchkin again. She's cute as a button and I enjoy her so much. Screw you, Munchkin.

*Looking forward to meeting Rad and Sandy. They've been fun to get to know online and am looking forward to doing a scene with Rad.

*Can't wait to meet Adelina, MissyDoright, short4ever, debs, Rich and several others. This is going to be a GREAT party.

*Panty shopping! I'm coming with my wonderful friend, RumpRoaster. He doesn't know it yet, but I will be hijacking the wheel and forcing him into panty shopping with me along the way. This is his first big party, so you guys make him feel welcome, K?

*The best part will be hangin' out with friends.... fingernail polish and cookies and chocolate and pajamas and friends and spankings. This is gonna be a great weekend!

Meeting Jean

2011-04-17T10:52:00.022-04:00

Jean is a wonderful lady I met probably a year and a half ago. She is quiet, but boy can she brat.

She has very good hearing. She once heard me say, "Please" (more than once, mind you) to a top FROM ACROSS THE ROOM in a scene where he was demanding I apologize. He kept spanking and claims he "didn't hear" me say that. I'm still trying to figure out how he couldn't hear from less than 2 feet away yet Jean heard from across the room. Thank you, Jean, for that support. There is a spanker out there with VERY selective hearing!

Jean is getting spanked here by Thomas for being all perfect and angelic. She deserved every swat. She also is teaching a certain top named Mike, how to count. He's not very good at it yet. She is quiet, alot of fun, and a very good brat. I love getting to know her at events and in vanilla settings too. Can't wait until we meet again.

Making More Friends Along the Way

2011-03-31T15:25:00.005-04:00

When I started out in the spanking world not so long ago, I was fearful of ending up on the 6 o'clock news, naive about people's intentions, way too trusting in some instances, not trusting enough in others, not sure of what was expected of me OR the top, thought other's experiences were the example of how mine should be, the whole gamut of newbie fears, frustrations and learning curves. I've made mistakes and had successes along the way and am more than willing to share both with whomever asks. But mostly, all my experiences have been good ones.

One a side note, Sarah Thorne has a great post on "Safety in The Scene". You can find that link Here .

Surprisingly (to me), I have ended up making some of my best friends with people who are spankos. It is nice to relax, put the wall down that hides this kink, and just be friends. If the spanking side comes out, wooo hooo. If not, I really enjoy their company otherwise. I cannot imagine my life without spanking friends anymore. For me, it's about making lasting friendships first and spanking second. I think I'm better equipped now to bring the backbone I have in my personal life into my spanking life.

Here's to all my spanko friends in PA, NC, MI, FL, KY, SC, AL, NJ, NY and anywhere else I missed. I'm looking forward to more years of friendship and making more friends along the way.

Spring Spankings

2011-03-17T23:36:00.000-04:00

Spring is in the air. The flowers are blooming. Birds are chirping. Weather is warming. I love spring! Makes me look forward to the rest of the year. This year, I am totally looking forward to going to Boardwalk Badness with a good friend, seeing old friends, making new ones. Boardwalk Badness was great last year and I am sure this year won't disappoint either. I am also looking forward to some other spanking events. My vanilla life is doing great at the moment. It also looks like once in a lifetime events are looking possible in vanilla land too. I am totally psyched for 2011 to be a great year! Woot woot!

Is anyone else's year looking good? Hope so!

Merry Christmas Everyone!

2010-12-25T21:55:00.000-05:00

Here is a holiday song set to Christmas music "Santa Claus is Coming to Town", done by none other than Bonnie of My Bottom Smarts. You can find her link HERE. Given all the recent attention BunAnnaGate has brought to FetLife, I thought the lyrics were appropriate for this year's Christmas post.

Merry Christmas everyone!

You better stop that
You better not lie
You better not brat
I'm telling you why

Santa Tawse is coming to town
Santa Tawse is coming to town
Santa Tawse is coming to town

He's swinging his belt
He's doubling it twice
He's making a welt
All rosy and nice

Santa Tawse is coming to town
Santa Tawse is coming to town
Santa Tawse is coming to town

He sees you when you're cheating
He knows when you're a fake
He knows if you've been bad or good
So be good for bottom's sake

So you better behave
or paddles will fly
Don't call him a knave
I'm telling you why

Santa Tawse is coming to town
Santa Tawse is coming to town
Santa Tawse is coming to town

Rant of a Sucky Person

2010-12-13T20:45:00.006-05:00

I’ve not ever used my blog to vent. I am mostly upbeat, positive and happy. But recently, I’ve been really bummed. People who know me best know I rarely get discouraged. I’ve been called “the eternal optimist” by more people than I can count. I always think things will be better the next day, or the next week, or the next month. I always see the glass as half full. I am usually positive both for myself and for my friends. I naturally keep my chin up. I rarely complain about the pain I am in from my accident or about difficult situations. I look for the good in both people and situations and keep rolling. I find the positive in every situation. Anyone who knows me well, knows this true about me.

But recently, maybe because of the up and coming Christmas season, I’ve been, for lack of a better word, discouraged. Not depressed. Just discouraged.

Let me start at the beginning. Those of you who follow my blog know I had a serious accident. After this accident, I had to relearn parts of everything. I had to relearn how sit without falling over to one side, how to get a fork to my mouth without hitting my face and spilling the food. I had to relearn to eat and drink without choking. I had to relearn bowel and bladder control like an infant (tmi, I know). I had to relearn how to button my shirt and tie my shoes. I had to relearn how to communicate with others and make myself understood. I had to relearn names for some objects. I had to, and am still relearning to, walk. I do ok in small areas, but larger areas with open spaces, or even smaller ones with people moving around cause me to become extremely unbalanced. In other words – I lost a lot. Although I have relearned most things, I am still working, and will be for the rest of my life, to regain what I lost.

In the process, I lost my livelihood, which I loved.

Not long after my accident, I lost my father to an serious accident of his own. He was my best friend.

I lost my home. It was the very first home I had purchased on my own as an adult.

Another thing that is happening, is this. I have 4-5 spanking friends who I’ve spoken with both online, on the phone, partied with on several occasions, some for at least 2 years, and others for over 3 years. But suddenly they will not speak to me. We usually spoke, even if briefly, online once a month or twice a month. For the past 5-6 months (and some a little longer), they have neither answered me nor been visible. But I know they are online because so many of my friends say “have you seen so and so’s status message – it’s hilarious”. Or “have you seen so and so’s avatar pic – it’s cute” or are you talking with so and so. So I know they are around. It’s just that I'm not included anymore. Which really hurts. I mean, it would be different if we had not communicated but for a short time. But it’s been over 2-3 years that we’ve held different forms of communication, depending on the person I am referring to – and now suddenly, without explanation, NO communication. It’s like I’ve been eliminated. Charged, tried, and convicted with no explanation. But of what? Wtf did I do? Why won't someone say something? So that hurts. Even though we weren’t extremely close, we did communicate in some form with some form of regularity - and I really enjoyed getting to know them a little - and I thought they sort of enjoyed me a little. Our communications lasted in regular intervals over a period of 2-3 plus years. The thing is, no one will even give me the courtesy of saying, “your breath stinks, I don’t like the way you handled such and such so I don’t want to be your friend or chat anymore, you aren’t cute enough, you aren’t witty enough, your butt is too fat, whatever”. But telling the truth is so much less painful than silence. But it is silent. Very silent. At least for now. I guess I don’t have what it takes in the spanko department either. I was afraid I might not. It appears I might have been correct. I mean, maybe my mind is making up all kinds of things as to “why” because of the stress I am in - caring for an elderly mom while working on improving my own disabilities, plus staving off my raving lunatic of a brother. But for someone to chat with you once or twice a month for several years, and to party with you on rare occasions, and/or ask you to come live in a duplex that’s coming available next door to them – and then suddenly stop all communications and not answer – yet still be actively communicating with the other same friends – something has to have happened. Normally I couldn't care less. Yet they make it clear they want no form of communication with me anymore, with no explanation. It makes me feel insecure and unwanted. It's not like we only spoke on my spanking alias either. All 4 of them know my real name, my real phone number, where I live, etc.... So that’s another thing I have lost - or at least 5 months OR more with zero communication makes it FEEL like I've lost their friendship. Spanking friends who lost interest in me, yet won’t tell me what I did wrong. I put value on friendship before spanking – so being shunned is – well – it hurts.

At the moment, all the fears that you have pre-spanking party (and now I’m REALLY thinking of backing out of going to the BWB in Atlantic City, even though I am registered, because all my fears seem to be true): no one will really like me, no one will want to spank me, no one will really want to even talk to me, if someone does spank me it will be because they feel sorry for me, I’m too ugly, I’m too fat, I'm not witty enough, no one will really want to be my friend or hang out with me and if they do, I'll just be in the way and tagging along – are rolling through my head at an alarming pace… not just in my spanking world, but in my vanilla one as well. I know, I know – it sounds like I’m being a drama queen. But really. I’m not. I never think like this except in the rarest occasions (and right before a spanking party, ha ha). I so very rarely get discouraged, which is why my doctors say I improved so well after an injury I was not supposed to improve from. But, at the moment, I am VERY discouraged. I would never make a huge deal over it all, but it would be nice to know what I did or what happened, no matter how painful to hear. Knowing the truth is much less painful than the silence of being shunned. And I am most definitely, without a shadow of a doubt, being shunned at the moment - and by those I really enjoyed hanging out with and respected...more than one spankee and more than one spanker. But I honestly don't know what I did. I wish someone would break the silence and just say what I did that was so offensive. I guess this amounts to several more losses in a long stream over the last couple of years.

In addition, my brother has recently decided that I am stealing the family money from my mother. Only there is no money whatsoever. When my father died, he left a modest stipend to my mother. That was used to bury him and to help her get situated (barely) to live without him. That modest amount of money is gone. I live with my elderly mother and I pay the house payment and some of the bills. She is forgetful and frail and has a Social Security income of barely over $700 a month. She has no savings and really is in no position to be working. I am on a disability income myself, but also have retirement from my job, which helps us make ends meet. But somehow, my brother has decided there is an inheritance, I have stolen it, and I am manipulating my mother into giving it all to me and leaving him out of the family fortune. (I even sat down with him and told him we BOTH were struggling, and could he help. His reply was that it was my job to support my mom as he has a wife and 5 kids to support...even though both he and his wife work, and me and my mom are both on social security.) Where he got this idea that there is a family fortune, no one has any idea. Our family has never been rich But I am supposedly stealing money from my mom, whose income is around $700 a month, and because I am supposedly doing this, there will supposedly be none left for him when she dies. THEREFORE, I am not allowed to ever see his kids again. Ever. Until I get help for taking advantage of my mom. My mother is welcome anytime to see the kids. I am not. So I’ve lost the chance to see my nieces and nephews grow up and to have an “auntly” input into their lives. My other brother (I have 2) thinks this brother might have started using drugs again. I'm thinking that might be the case as well.)

This Christmas, I have encouraged my mom to go see the kids for Christmas, even though it will mean I am alone for the holiday. Kids that age need their grandmother at Christmas. I loved seeing my grandparents at Christmas growing up, and they should have the same opportunity, even if I am not allowed to be involved… because I am supposedly stealing from my mother, and therefore him. My other brother (the good egg) and his kids and family are traveling out of state to his wife’s family for the holidays. Therefore, they will not be around either. So I’m packing my mom up and taking her to the airport tomorrow so she can spend some quality time with her grandchildren over the holidays. I’ve basically lost out on family for Christmas. But it’s worth it for the kids to have their Grandma there with them and the build those special Christmas memories that will give them joy for the rest of their lives.

In summary, I’ve lost a lot since my accident:
motor skills,
livelihood,
a parent,
several friends lost to cancer,
a couple of animals,
my first purchased home,
more than one of my spanking friends, to some undefined, unspoken reason that I have no idea what it is,
nieces and nephews,
to name a few.

Yet, I’ve always managed to keep going, managed to keep a smile on my face, managed to have fun and enjoy life, managed to move forward and not look back, managed to make lemonade out of lemons despite all I’ve lost. That is until now. But now I am thinking to myself: For the spanking community to start shunning you, you have to be pretty sucky. Spanking people are so tolerant for the most part. Knowing how tolerant they are got me to thinking about all this and caused me to start seeing the light – maybe I really am a sucky person and I’ve been ignoring it all along, trying to fit in - and I never will. I just wish I knew what I was doing so I could be a little less sucky and a little more accepted.

Oh well. That is my rant. I know. I know. I'm prolly blowing everything out of proportion and reading things into it all that arent' there. I really don't want to make a problem where there is none. But right now, I'm so discouraged, I can't help it. I'm whining. I'm sorry. I realize the rest of my friends might make a run for it after reading this long, paranoid unlike-me vent. :( (Or maybe I was fooling myself and never really had any spanking friends at all.) And I'm really not blasting anyone. I'm just stating how I feel based on my current perceptions. Maybe it's my brother being a dick head. Maybe it's the Christmas season and knowing I will be alone. I rarely get this discouraged. As you can see from my blog, I’ve never, ever ranted like this. And I prolly never will again. It is foreign to me to feel like this. It totally sucks.

Hopefully by tomorrow I will wake up on the good side of the bed, maybe figure out what I did wrong to cause so many spanking people I considered to be friends, or at least really good acquaintances with the makings of a friend, to discard me all at the same time (and maybe make amends if that is possible as I honestly have no clue what I did). Maybe my brother will see that there really IS no money in our household, and that I'm not holding my mother hostage against her will, etc.etc etc.... Maybe I will not be discouraged tomorrow.

If you've made it to the end of this and are still reading, you must be a saint. Thanks.

Tomorrow will be better. It has to be.

YouTube's Smack My Bottom

2010-12-05T12:16:00.000-05:00

Ok, so I am purve surfing on YouTube, with the basic search word "spanking" - and I come across this cute video. Thought I would share it with you guys.

Come to find out, Chross Guide to The Internet Spanking has also listed this video on his site.
You can find Chross's link here
http://chross.blogt.ch/

You can find the link to the YouTube video here
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hG7_TCzux1Y

Happy Spanksgiving!

2010-11-24T03:48:00.003-05:00

Happy Spanksgiving tomorrow to all my spanko friends!

Tops and Their Weapons of Ass Destruction

2010-11-21T17:31:00.000-05:00

One thing I've noticed about tops - they all have a duffel bag of sorts with weapons of ass destruction. Not one of them has just a single implement. Noooooo. It must be 10, 20, 30, 40 or more, lol. Most tops also want to try ALL of them out on you! Pictured to the right is the contents of a friend's bag from way back over two years ago. I'm sure by now, the duffel bag has doubled in size, as have the contents! Althoouuuugh - he does has a girlfriend who, rumor has it, keeps hiding them. ;) (I LIKE her!)

Meeting a New Friend

2010-11-15T19:00:00.000-05:00

I hope to make mention of many of the folks I have met in person in the scene. Today's post is just a little about one of the tops I have met.

In 2009, I started chatting with a top because his screen name made me chuckle - RumpRoaster. Within a couple of months, we had progressed to some IM, phone chats and meeting up. He is a *cough* *sputter* a good *cough* *cough* spanker and really fun to hang out with too, both vanilla and spanking. (Can't believe I'm saying that since he HAS broken both a plastic-made-to-look-like wooden hair brush AND a ping pong paddle on my butt - see above picture.)

I've found he loves certain things in particular: a brat sticking their tongue out at him, mayonnaise on anything and everything, and pink (not white) denture cream. He also is quite fond of a brat, any brat, bouncing up and down on the couch saying, "spank me, spank me" when he is trying to veg out or watch tv - or at 1AM. Another favorite of his is if someone moves his implements to much safer locations. If you meet him one day, try one or all of these! You can tell him I told you :). He will be so appreciative.

Hellos to Readers From Around the World

2010-11-04T14:06:00.056-04:00

I used to have a rolling thingie on my blog that showed where people were from who visited. I got rid of that. But because I missed Bonnie's Love our Lurkers day due to vanilla life obligations, I decided to welcome all the readers from around the world who take the time time read our blogs about this thing we do. This list is not all inclusive, so if I missed your country - welcome anyway!

Australia - welcome!
   Canada - welcome & bienvenue!
      France - bienvenue!
         Germany - wilkommen!
            Great Britain - welcome!
                Holland - welkom!
                  Ireland - welcome!
Israel -    !ברוכים הבאים
                             Netherlands - valkommen!
                                 New Zealand - welcome!
                                    Norway - velkommen!
                                       Poland - witamy!
                                          South Africa - welcome!
                                              Spain - recepcion!
                                                   United Kingdom - welcome!
                                                       United States -welcome!

Long Distance Mentoring

2010-07-21T01:00:00.000-04:00

I've had a couple of brief long distance mentors. The first friend caught the brunt of my injury which is now largely resolved, minus the spinal cord injury... plus he unknowingly saved my life by his scoldings, chat lines, and encouragement. I was in a situation long after this, where I had the choice to do what we had worked on - or not. I did it (and have always done it since we worked together), and had I not, I most likely would have been killed or seriously maimed. I only got the chance recently to thank him.

The second friend worked with me for a bit and then had to quit because of needing to spend attention to other things in his life. It was this mentor who helped me get focused on what I needed to do to turn my life around. I will always be grateful for his wisdom and encouragement...and even his quite painful interventions. I am still working on implementing some of the things we worked on.

One friend did put me in the corner once, said he'd try to do it once a week, to help keep me focused. That happened only once. He prefers real life encounters and feels they are more beneficial to both the spankee and himself - and we live quite a distance away from each other. He has spanked me real life several times when I was in his area and has helped keep me on the straight and narrow (or rather return me to the straight and narrow) very effectively.

For the short spurts of LD mentoring I have had, it has helped tremendously. I do have to say that self spanking totally doesn't work for me. I mean, it helps embarrass me and it motives me to do better. But there is no pain like the real thing. I seem to need the real pain and real spanking for it to change my attitude or behavior, if it has finally come down to needing a spanking. But writing chat lines, or being scolded, being put in the corner, being grounded from tv and/or internet, and early bedtimes helps to motivate me to change and toe the line too. LD helps when nothing else is available - but both parties have to be willing to work at it a little - especially when a real spanking just is not feasible.

I think my days of LD mentoring are over, but it certainly was helpful, and I made great strides with some things I really needed to work on and improve.

Has LD mentoring helped anyone else?

Party Post

2010-04-29T20:28:00.002-04:00

Life has been so hectic, I have not been able to write about the last two parties I have attended. I hope to write in more detail at some point. But my vanilla life is so crazy, it will probably be a few months before I can give details.

The Boardwalk Badness Party was awesome. I was able to meet up with old friends and make new ones...Jean, Coach Tanner, Miranda, Jules, Jersey John, Mike, Lilbrat, Sarah Rocks, Ginger, Zed, Richard Windsor, Amber, Pixie, Alona, LilyAnna, Rad, and David Pierson. Details to follow when my vanilla life slows down. Coach Tanner, Mike, Miranda and Jules did a wonderful job.

Phrases

2010-03-26T20:56:00.000-04:00

There are some phrases that just make me shudder, knowing trouble is on the way. Some of them are:

"Young lady..."
"Come here"
"What did you just say??"
"Bend over my knee."
"You are getting a spanking."
"We are going to have a chat."
"We'll discuss that later."

I also hate the "You are in so much trouble." look.

Luckily, (or very occasionally, not so luckily?) I don't have anyone who spanks me on a regular basis, or even a semi-regular basis - so I have a little leeway to do some fun things that I would not otherwise do if I knew there would be trouble brewing (not even necessarily a spanking - lines, being scolded, corner time, even just knowing I disappointed someone - stuff like that can work for me too.)

How about you guys? Are there any phrases that make your ears perk up and your stomach sink?

Red Heads Rule

2010-01-21T20:14:00.000-05:00

Lately life has been just a little difficult. Sick, winding up in the ER, some friends dying, those kinds of things. I'm a little tired. The tireder I get, the punchier I get.

So, feeling silly, punchy, and incredibly exhausted, I had Mr. Ed's Theme Song rolling around in my head (a horse is a horse, of course, of course) and decided to make up a poem about red-headed spankees sorta/kinda patterned after that song. I'm a red head. More of a blonde-ish red head, but a red head nonetheless.

So here goes:
Framed after Mr. Ed's song, A Horse is Horse of Course of Course - NOT singable,
with LOTS of liberties taken - of course! (Don't try to sing the song along with the poem - it won't work, lol)

A red head is a red head, of course, of course.
We brat and bat eyes which ends in remorse.
Our hair is red, and often our bottoms are too.
A red head is a red head, of course, of course.

There's nothing like a red headed spankee, of course.
No one can talk to a red head, of course.
That is, of course, unless you speak softly and carry a paddle.

Go right to the red head and ask, of course.
We'll always give you an answer you can endorse.
Though feisty and bratty - we're level headed, you know.
Ask the ones who speak softly and carry a paddle.

Some can yikkity yak a streak and waste your time of day,
But those who speak softly and carry a paddle
Don't speak unless they have something to say.
(Of course!)

A red head is a red head, of course, of course.
Sometimes we talk until our voice is hoarse.
You've never heard of a red head who is hoarse?
Talk to the ones who speak softly and carry a paddle.

A red head is a red head, of course, of course.
We brat and bat eyes which ends in remorse.
Our hair is red, and often our bottoms are too.
A red head is a red head, of course, of course!

RED HEADS RULE!!

Merry Christmas

2009-12-24T16:17:00.000-05:00

Wishing everyone a very Merry Christmas! May the peace that was present that first Christmas night guard your hearts and souls for 2010.

The Night Before Christmas

2009-12-18T19:05:00.000-05:00

Here is a Christmas poem adapted to spankos. I do not know who wrote it, but I cannot take credit. Enjoy.

Twas the night before Christmas, and all through the town
Her pleas could be heard as her panties came down.

"Oh Santa, dear Santa, don't spank me, I pray!
I'll be ever so good, starting right from today!"

But Santa just chuckled, "I've heard that before
From many a bad girl with bottom so sore

As she wriggles and squirms 'neath his hand's hearty sting.
But a promise like that - why, it means not a thing.

What matters, dear One, as you'll very soon see
Is that you should be spanked across Santa's broad knee.

Till your sassy bare bottom is burning bright red!"
And with that, the old fellow did just as he'd said,

And proceeded to spank her with all of his might
Till her yelps echoed loud in the cold frosty night,

And each swat, ringing out like a loud pistol shot,
Turned her soft, round bottom increasingly hot.

Then, when she'd been hand-spanked with many a smack,
The jolly old fellow reached into his sack.

He produced a fine paddle of well-seasoned wood.
"Now, this is the thing that makes naughty girls good."

He remarked with a grin. "And I think you'll soon find
How effective it feels on a soft, tender behind!"

"Oh please, Santa! No more!" she cried in dismay,
But the paddle cracked down without further delay,

And despite all her protests and wailings and shrieks
It soon deepened the blush on her squirming, rear cheeks.

Poor Dear how she wriggled but all was vain,
For the paddle descended again and again

Till her bouncing bare bottom was sizzling and sore
And as red as the costume that Santa Claus wore.

But at last he relented allowing her to rise,
Hugged her warmly while wiping the tears from her eyes,

And murmuring, "There, it's all over, my dear!"
Rubbing soothing cool cream on her blazing, hot rear.

Then he exclaimed, "Well Miss, your sweet bottom so curved
Has had the sound spanking it so richly deserved.

From now on, I'm sure, I don't need to explain,
If you're good then I shan't have to spank you again.

But if you are naughty - remember, my dear,
That Santa keeps watch for the whole of the year!"

Then smiling, he shouldered his bulging big sack,
And sent her away with a crisp farewell smack.

So she hurried to bed with satisfaction you know,
With a song in her heart and her bottom aglow

And a sense that all manner of things were all right.
But she slept facing down on her tummy that night!

Cookie and Thomas

2009-11-07T21:30:00.004-05:00

Been crazy busy and haven't posted much yet. Sorry. I believe I will highlight fun things about the people I have met in several posts.

Today's post will be about meeting Thomas and Cookie.

I had heard about Thomas and Cookie, but had never met them. They came Friday night after a long drive and not being sure if they were 5 minutes away or 2 1/2 hours away. One of the more elderly members of their car crew was having trouble telling exactly where they were.

Highlights of meeting Thomas and Cookie were of Cookie getting her spanking with the spongebob paddle. Thomas got to wear earrings as well. He also does a lovely job of painting fingernails. Someone also has "selective hearing". He had trouble HEARING the word, "please", even though someone from ACROSS the room HEARD IT.... Maybe a Christmas present of an ear wax removal system??? :D

Cookie got spanked lots and lots...and lots and lots. I think she might have been taking brat lessons from the other brats in attendance :D. All of them are pretty good at it! Wish I could be that good... but never will be :)

It was very nice meeting them.

Birthday Party News

2009-11-02T16:03:00.001-05:00

Here are some tidbits about some of the things I enjoyed about the spanking party the other weekend. I'll write another post about specifics soon. Just lots of things going on and no time to write.

* mostly, I enjoyed the friendship and comraderie that I seem to find best in spanko friends

* winning against a top who wanted me to say "Please" before he'd let me up from a spanking :P

* having a spanking birthday party with another spanko, with a room full of spankos there to share the moment. Made for lots of spankings for everyone, all the way around. Even if I was spanked for BOTH birthdays. (Isn't there an SSU rule against that??)

* spanking games of various types

* meeting new friends and seeing old ones - some LITERALLY old ;)

* texting while driving ... I mean, texting while being spanked

* ending the party with a nice, long, relaxing birthday spanking before the long ride home

* eating more than anyone should eat in one weekend

* watching a total newbie come out of her shell more and more and realize what a total spanko she really was

* getting to meet the real Sponge Bob and Sponge Bobbette

* finally meeting a couple of cool spankees I've talked with online with but never met

* meeting the famous Kat the Brat. She is cute as a button and has a name that fits her :)

*being otk with my bare butt in the air when someone OPENS the door to housekeeping. They told her now was not a good time.

*experiencing a cane again, (it's been a long time and most likely will be a long time again - God I hate sting, lol. Thank goodness it wasn't a switching, lol.) and experiencing an aluminum paddle for the first and ONLY time (once in a lifetime is enough.)

Those are just a few of the many things that went on that weekend. Nice fun and nice to hang out with other spankos.

A Little About Me

2009-10-26T04:21:00.001-04:00

I am 30 and holding. Girls never get older than 30. 30 with 5 years experience - or 30 with 10 years experience - but it's never older than 30 ;) It's the guys who age and become geriatric without much effort mwaahh ha ha.
I've lived in big cities, little towns and everywhere in between. Currently, I live in a rural community. Very rural. Some places are so rural it's safe to go naked. (Maybe THAT'S why UPS and Fed Ex refuse to deliver here, lol.)
Was in an accident and was incorrectly diagnosed. This incorrect diagnoses led to damage that was irreversible. I've spent a long time relearning everything - from feeding myself without missing my mouth, to holding things without dropping them, to rolling over, to sitting up without falling over, to standing, and now walking, among several other things. Thousands of hours have gone into PT and in front of mirrors to make things look natural again. The amount of work it takes to simply live life everyday is incredibly exhausting. I've managed to make most things look normal again. Still working on a few others, but will have them mastered too.
Since this injury, I've lost a lot in my life. I lost a family member. I lost my livelyhood. I lost my home. I lost my abilities - abilities that most people take for granted (and so did I) - and had to relearn them. I lost my independence and had to regain that. I lost some friends who had a hard time with the fact that I couldn't walk anymore, even though I was working on relearning that. (Fuck them.) I lost three friends to cancer. I lost my best friend in a totally different accident. But I did discover that the most precious thing in life is the people IN your life...your friends and family. I take losses of family and friends hard now adays and love my friends and family with abandon now - maybe because I feel I lost so much with the injury. But my deep care and affection of my friends and family comes from having lost so much - and realizing that really, it's the people in your life that matter. You can lose alot, but if you still have your friends and/or family, your are truly rich.
Despite the negative things, I am very motivated, happy, and positive about life in general. I believe being happy is a choice and that life is often what you choose to make of your situation. My life isn't what I had planned, but then, whose life IS totally what they had planned?
Had several breaks in my back, hips and legs. I also had a skull fracture. This all has contributed to constant pain and an unrelenting, constant headache for many years - ever since the accident.
I don't take narcotics for my pain except very, very rarely. I can count on one hand the number of times I've resorted to that level pain med in many years. I hate how it makes me feel, so I just distract myself.
Have found that a spanking actually relieves most of my aches and pains for a while. So, although I don't like the pain of a good spanking the moment it is happening, I like the side effects. Quite the unexpected side effect of a spanking of less pain and better self control. I'll take it!
2 horses, 4 cats, 1 opposum, 4 dogs, and 1 turtle (all rescues).
I try to volunteer at several animal shelter places when I feel well enough. I also try to volunteer and hold sick kids whose parents can't be there 24/7 for whatever reason at the hospital when I am up to that.
I try to take classes online on days I can do so.
Am planning on finishing grad school - not much left to complete. Hopefully within the next year, but have other goals to reach 1st. So no time limit there. Just another goal.
Am really wanting to learn to speak German, Russian, Polish, French and several other languages fluently. Currently, I only know swear words in German, Russian and Polish (forgot the Polish), which can be quite nice when you want to talk to a spanker about how you truly feel about things at the moment while you are upended and them not know what you are saying, lol.

That's pretty much it in a nutshell.

Spankings definitely help lower pain levels (an unexpected "side effect") and help make me more focused to reach life goals as well. I've also found that spankos are, for the most part, kind, generous, understanding and much more fun than many of the prudes I hung around before spanking! I have to admit, I do have some really fun vanilla friends. It's just so much MORE fun when friends are also spankos! Have met several really nice, fun spankos in real life. Just met a few more at my 1st spanking party (woot!), as well as seeing old friends (old as in we've know each other for a while, as well as old, as in, well, elderly). Spankings, birthday parties, spankings, games, spankings, relaxing, spankings, eating, spankings, just hanging around and chatting. Did I say spankings?

Spanking party news coming soon. Stay tuned.

Off to Florida

2009-10-20T13:12:00.000-04:00

I'm off to Florida for my very first spanking party soon. It's small (about 10 people), so that is a comfortable size for me to start. My pre-party jitters are mostly gone. I'm excited to be meeting new people, making new friends, catching up with old ones, and of course - spankings :).

I'll let you know how it goes and all about the spankings soon.

It's LOL Day

2009-10-13T03:24:00.000-04:00

Today is Love Our Lurker's day, hosted by Bonnie from My Bottom Smarts blogspot. (There is a link to her blog to the right.)

Here's an invitation to all the silent readers and lurker's of my blog to leave a comment and introduce yourself. Don't be shy! I lurked for a long time before I ever got enough nerve to comment on a blog or a forum. Now I talk way, WAY too much, lol.

So hello and welcome to all the lurkers of Red Bottom Tales. Hope you will leave a comment and introduce yourself.

Thanks for reading this blog!

Spanking Party Jitters

2009-10-04T07:10:00.000-04:00

As you can tell, I have to be in the mood to write. Obviously, the mood hasn't struck much lately.

There have been a lot of spanking party post in lots of blogs lately. I'm interrupting my chronological post of events (I've made it to 2008 - woot!), with the exception of congratulating Richard Windsor for his 1 million hits and counting on his blog, to say I've been invited to a spanking party, my first. Yay! It's a small one, which appeals to me much more than one of the bigger ones. Plus, it starts two days after my birthday, so I'm told we will be celebrating it, along with another one, while we are there. I'm not a social butterfly by any stretch of the imagination, particularly after my accident, and do much better one on one and in small groups. After my accident, I don't always choose the right thing to say or do and sometimes I just generally end up looking a little (and sometimes alot) foolish without meaning to do so. The butterflies in my stomach get bigger and bigger each day as I think about things like:

1. What if no one wants to spank me and I'm the only one who isn't spanked by everyone - more than once?

2. What if my butt is so ugly, the spankers take one look and try to hurry and give a respectable length of a spanking so they can quit and not have to look at it much longer...andddddd that will be my first and last spanking from them....annnnd my first and last conversation with them - ever.

3. I'm not naturally pretty like most girls, which has always been ok with me. I'm not ugly. But I'm NOT pretty. So who would REALLY want to spank me anyway? I mean, I'm not young or tiny or model material by any stretch of the imagination.

4. What if I say or do something so stupid, no one will want to talk to me for the whole weekend after my unintended faux paux? Or ever again, for that matter.

5. What if the other spankees and spankers laugh at all my newbie mistakes?

6. What if my birthday spankings hurt so much I'm not able to be spanked anymore for the whole weekend - except for littly wimpy stuff ...so I just end up being a god-awful wallflower and have to watch everyone else instead of joining in the fun?

Those are some of the many thoughts that are rolling through my head. I know. They are totally unreasonable and silly. But still, I am nervous.

I plan to start in on the adult beverages just soon enough to relax my social reservations...just enough to relax, have fun, and not have the caught in the headlights look.

However, I AM really excited about meeting new people, making new friends, and reconnecting with old friends. Oh. And of course, the spankings! But right now, my social awkwardness and fears are making the jitters in my stomach multiply daily.

There is a part of me that is really intrigued with the more fun side of spanking (without the sexual component - unless I ever get a non-vanilla boyfriend.) I have a whole list of role play things I might like to try out someday, including several school girl ones. My whole life I have pursued things with the goal of sport, then coaching and for the most part have attained my goals. Then there was college, then eventually four degrees. Then - my accident. Even after my injury, I am still pursuing some specific goals. Plus I'm trying to take some classes. Plus taking care of an aging parent while being disabled myself. Plus still learning how to cope with my injury and its pain and deficits and how to compensate without it making me so incredibly tired. I've never, in my whole life, relaxed and let my hair down. Heck, I didn't even have a typical kids sleep over or birthday parties as a kid - because there was always training to be done, a goal to pursue, something to perfect or improve. I even missed my high school prom for sports related activities. I think it might be time to stop putting so much pressure on myself, relax, and just have some fun. I'm thinking a spanking party might just be the perfect place to start, especially once pre-party jitters dissipate. Some Firefly peach tea just might help in that department!

Richard Windsor's 1 Millionth Blogspot Hit

2009-10-01T21:55:00.000-04:00

Congratulations are in order for Richard Windsor's 1 millionth blogspot hit. Congratulations and here's to another one million and more.

You can click the link to his blogspot over to the right under "House of Richard Windsor".

Meeting a New Friend

2009-08-30T14:53:00.000-04:00

About a month after I began speaking with a spanker through emails and IM's in 2007, I began corresponding with a lady (spankee) from one of the sites I had begun to frequent. She gave me her phone number after several IM's and emails and I called. We seemed to hit it off instantly and have communicated in some way almost every day since. She was a wealth of information for me and started showing me the ropes. (I found out not too long after that conversation that she and the spanker I had been corresponding with had thought I was someone else and wanted to start a timely phone interaction with me to make sure I wasn't her, lol.) I was crushed that that first conversation wasn't because I had such a great personality, ha ha. (just kidding) Anyway, seeing as I wasn't the person they thought I was, I had the chance to prove that I might be worth the effort for some discipline to help me change my behaviors. I was (and still am, to some extent) so out of control with some specific behaviors - but improving with help that is available, as it comes available. But having a friend who already knew lots about spanking, and with her being a women, I could ask her questions I was too embarrassed to ask my male spanking friend. Eventually I met her and stayed in her home. She has also come to mine. We visit each other when we can now. She was and is a good friend, the best. Since meeting my first spanko friend, I have gone on to meet some more spanko friends, whom I will write about another time. Spankos are a unique breed of people from all walks of life. It has been nice to find that I wasn't as weird as I thought.

Newbie Questions con't

2009-08-24T23:09:00.000-04:00

I am posting this link to Spanking Therapy. They have a thread running about questions newbies can ask their potential spankers.

http://s4.zetaboards.com/SpankingTherapy/topic/550583/1/

Answers

2009-08-02T13:09:00.003-04:00

While most answers to my list of questions are varied from spanker to spanker, there was one answer that stood out to me when I asked it for the first time. It was the question about handspankings and whether they hurt or were they just embarrassing.

The answer, not quoted, but in essence: Yes, handspankings hurt. They are supposed to hurt and I make sure they do.

Yikes, lol.

(photo from Girls Boarding School)

Questions - Part 2

2009-08-02T13:09:00.001-04:00

When I looked back, the questions I asked in my last post pretty much cover all the bases. Any other questions were based from conversations that we were actively having on IM, for the most part.

The only other questions I can think of that I asked were along the lines of:

Are you married?

Do you have kids?

and most importantly...

Do you have a dog?! lol. There is a saying that a man's dog will tell you alot about the man who owns him.

Good, bad or indifferent, those were my basic starting questions.

Newbie Questions - Part 1

2009-07-29T13:11:00.000-04:00

Here are some of the questions I asked of this poor, unsuspecting soul. He had the patience of Job and answered all of them without fail. I'll follow with some more questions in another post.

1. How long have you done this?

2. Do you spank adult men AND women or only women?

3. What is your day job?

4. Are you married and if so, does your wife know about your spanking other women for discipline and does she approve?

5. Tell me about your experience.

6. Tell me about your methods.

7. Does all this remain confidential?

8. Do you spank until someone gives up fighting the spanking?

9. Is there a charge?

10. I’ve never been over someone’s knee. Does that position hurt?

11. Does standing in the corner really help modify someone’s behavior?

12. What is the difference between a hairbrush and a paddle and why do you choose one over the other?

13. What does your paddle look like?

14. Do you get to know the people you hold accountable on some level as friends (not a sexual thing, more like a friend thing)?

15. What are your rules during a spanking session?

16. What other methods of disciplining do you have?

17. Is over the knee literal - as in over ONE knee? If so, what are you doing with your other leg? Does it help you stay balanced or something to have one leg free?

18. Could I see some pictures of your implements?

19. Do you use each implement every time?

20. How high is your wooden chair?

21. Where all have you lived?

22. Were you spanked as a child?

23. Do you require the person to count?

24. What do you mean by an adult dose of spanking?

25. Do hand spankings hurt or are they just embarrassing?

26. How many people do you mentor at once?

27. This is strictly, straight-forward old fashioned discipline – right?

28. What are your scoldings like?

29. Who pulls pants down, me or you?

30. What kind of things do you like to do when you aren't working (or mentoring)?

31. Which hurts more – a wooden spoon or a hairbrush?

32. I have been reading the LDD website . Is this how you pattern after? So, say for example, I were to disobey something you said for me to do during a spanking I was being given for something else, would I receive a second spanking after the first one, like the website describes? And if so, doesn't that seem hard? Or would the second spanking just be a little gentler, kind of like a reminder?

The Next Step

2009-07-22T22:57:00.000-04:00

The next step was for me to start searching through the members of the domestic discipline groups in yahoo I had joined. I systematically went through each name and looked at their profile. After hours and hours (and hours and hours) of searching, I found an ad for a spanker who said he offered exactly what I was looking for. Nothing extreme, nothing sexual, just old fashioned style spanking and related discipline. It took me several weeks to hit the send button after I composed my first email to him, but eventually I did. Lo and behold, he answered. He was a wealth of information to this complete and foolish novice and even taught me how to instant message, lol. I had tons and tons of questions and he took the time to answer them all, as well as to ask tons of questions of me. He also referred me to the Spankingneeds.com site (Spankingtherapy.org had not been "born" yet.) The more questions I asked and the more I answered of him, the more questions came to mind.

Delving In

2009-07-16T19:20:00.000-04:00

I searched the internet every night after work and waded through tons of BDSM sites, finally finding some sites for Domestic Discipline - something I had never heard of before in my life. I also found some yahoo groups about adult discipline and joined all of them I could find. Finally, after several months, I mustered enough courage to email one of the Domestic Discipline sites and ask the owner how I should begin my search. Not thinking I would receive an answer to my email, I was quite surprised when I received a prompt reply. His advice was to think of a different name, screenname, and email address than my real life one and start my search with that in mind. He advised that not everyone you meet online is who or what they say they are and gave some very good advise on safety and meeting new people, etc.... I would have never thought of these things, and had indeed, emailed him with my real email address. I implemented all of his suggestions. This was the beginning of my search.

First Beginnings

2009-07-09T18:21:00.000-04:00

My story begins after an accident that left me needing months and months of physical and occupational therapy. I had physical therapists and occupational therapists telling me I could use a good spanking. Although I tried really hard at all the exercises I was given, my use of the English language was (even before my accident) quite colorful. In addition, I threw caution to the wind and engaged in fun, but, ummm questionably safe, behaviors on a VERY regular basis. Of course, my bratty side came out quite regularly as well - in a fun way - but nonetheless - still quite obvious even to the most casual observer. Finally, one of my doctors sat me down and stated that it was too bad my injury had not occurred to me while I was a child, because I needed a good spanking. He wasn't kidding. Neither were my physical and occupational therapists....

Sooooooooooooooooooooo... I invested in a computer, which I had never owned before, and began using the Google search engine for all things spanking. What I found was amazing! It took quite a while to wade through the pornographic stuff that I was NOT interested in, to finding that there was indeed adult, consensual spankings - not only for erotic reasons, but for stress relief and for disciplinary reasons as well.

The ins and outs of a whole new world was there for me to start learning about and exploring. This was the start of my journey.

Stay tuned - more to come.

Introduction

2009-07-08T23:36:00.000-04:00

Hi,

I began my spanking journey a little over a year and a half ago. Not sure yet where this blog will lead, but it will contain a lot about my spanking journey and a lot about me.

LR